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Three years ago Brigitte realised her boyfriend would not want to stay with her if they decided to move in together. She asks us what we thought of the idea.

We say Brigitte’s girlfriend was pretty much right. When Brigitte and her boyfriend Guy decided to give dating another try – ten years after they’d broken up in college – they would need to live together to ensure they were both happy.

A friend of the couple was putting on a moving festival, trying to replace an endowment mortgage in his house with a rental. thiendia He asked us whether we thought renting was the way forward. We said we wouldn’t use a boomerang marriage as an example, but instead looked at the way different eras had coped with split-up relationships.

We wrote the article in April last year, and within a week Twitter went crazy, but the main response was positive. A lot of people asked if we’d given the wrong example; “If you and your partner break up, you should get back together?”, one woman tweeted. Another complimented us for showing “the the future in a way that was as big as it was optimistic”. javhd One of our most emailed (and emailed and emailed) readers was Alex from the US. “I’m sorry,” he said, “but that’s the wrong example of what you should go for – your partner should have some sort of commitment or commitment ring.”

I didn’t agree with all the advice about moving in together, but I’d say the article was more useful than I expected it to be, because it focused on how people in the future will have to live together to ensure they both want to live together. But I’m wary of using Brigitte’s experience as a guide to my own. It’s sad that people move in together to avoid splitting up again, but it’s a pretty common problem with all older couples, and in my experience, moving in together usually gives the relationship a boost.

A YouGov poll last year suggested one in three couples get back together and that half of those couples are married. Two-thirds of single people say they’d move in with their boyfriend or girlfriend if they had to, and almost a third of couples say they’d get back together if they couldn’t afford their own house.

Part of the problem of moving in with someone else is that we are living longer. As well as this, we are more financially secure, and that’s not going to change any time soon. When it comes to moving in together, no matter how tired you are of the excuses, you have to do it, because there’s nowhere else to go.

But no matter how stressed you are or how tired you feel, don’t walk away when things get tough, or you’ll be back at square one. Take our advice, and live happily ever after together in the future. viet69